I’m getnna just do it a directly blame the news when it comes to presumption that, in the event that you exercise non- monogamy, you have to additionally be profoundly kinky. Can the 2 occur together? Yes. Not fundamentally.
But once individuals think about non-monogamy, their minds head to one spot – fast. Intercourse! If monogamy is classified by lacking intercourse with everybody, then non-monogamy must certanly be about making love with everyone, appropriate? It should be about threesomes, and foursomes, and team intercourse, and orgies, and swingers events with fire respiration, leather clad jugglers in nipple clamps moving through the chandeliers.
Um…no. The stark reality is usually much more tame.
Non-monogamy merely means, as we’ve discussed, the capability to be with over only one individual. It generally does not signify a person is fundamentally with multiple lovers simultaneously. It generally does not signify a person is fundamentally having indiscriminate intercourse. Plus it does not always mean any particular one is, whilst having indiscriminate intercourse with numerous lovers simultaneously, additionally strapped towards the sleep with fabric cuffs in nipple clamps and a crystal butt plug.
Is one to enjoy a non-monogamous relationship and a crystal butt plug during the exact same time?
Certain. But one could just like easily exercise relationship anarchy while being definitely vanilla (or not- kinky, for anybody whom didn’t read 50 tones) along with lovers they have a go at.
The news will have you genuinely believe that we’re all leather clad in feather masks flouncing around at play events breaking our riding crops (and ok, perhaps some people have already been proven to regular play events breaking riding plants) but still, kink is its very own thing, in its very very own right, totally split from non-monogamy and, no, don’t assume all non-monogamous individual is into “butt stuff.